Often, as parents, we think we did something wrong with our kids.
We may, we may not, but the push back from kids is meant to happen, as they are meant to be starting on their own journey. If they are not pushing back, they are not leaving, they are in your safety comfort zone, they will NOT start their own journey in life. They are PROGRAMMED to push back at you, as parents!
Did you do or say something wrong? Maybe you did, maybe you did not, it does not matter, it was MEANT TO HAPPEN.
Stop blaming yourself; you will fall into a black hole of self-blaming, trying to fix the relationship.
Why is it meant to happen?
Parents and kids are meant to learn to FORGIVE and LET GO, allowing each other to GROW INDEPENDENT!
Parents and kids are meant to learn to ACCEPT each other’s uniqueness!
Just make sure you are APPROACHABLE when they make mistakes and come back, REPEAT approachability, there is no need to push the ‘relationship’, just give them time to discover that you are there for them any time, begin with the time of need.
It, the push back, move away is meant to happen, the push back, move away by the kids, just BE THERE for them when they need a space to return to when they make mistakes in their journey, we all make mistakes. As parents, live your life and be there, accessible when they need you.