Self Love

The life journey is like…

• There is a bucket (you are the BUCKET)  where you are supposed to fill up with love, self-love.
• There is a problem with the bucket, the bucket has holes in it, bottom and the sides.  The life challenge is to fill the bucket up.

The challenging lesson:

This is the journey of filling the bucket up with love.  Imagine love as water, you, the bucket, you have to fill up the bucket with water, how can you fill it up with water to the brim while there are holes everywhere?

We are meant to LEARN TO PATCH THE HOLES UP so that we can fill up the bucket with water, else we can try and try, but the bucket never fills because the bucket is leaking water!

When you finally get to fill up the bueket by patching the holes, your bucket get close to being full, there is SWITCH at the brim, where it opens up, the water over flows and fill up other people’s buckets below, like the wedding champagne glasses, stacked on top of each other, you fill the top glass and it overflows over to the rest of the glasses below.

The filling up, learn to patch up the holes, is the SELFISH part of the journey, focusing on self, to patch up the holes, then the second part of the journey is switching on the OVERFLOW to help others fill up.  This is the SELFISH to SELFLESS journey, we HAVE TO LEARN TO FILL UP with SELF LOVE first before SELFLESS LOVE can happen.

The teaching of selflessness:

There is an old movement that tells you you have to be selfless.  Very noble teaching with the best of intentions.

You are conditioned to be selfless, like a bucket full of holes. You fill up a little, you are LEAKING OUT the water, giving to others, very selfless, but you never get to fill up the bucket.  You tried and tried, but you just cannot fill up the bucket because of the holes.   You are now DEPENDING on someone to FILL YOU UP, and from that filling, they leak out to others.

You will always be DEPENDING ON OTHERS TO GIVE YOU LOVE.   This is the guaranteed way of NOT completing your purpose, which is to FILL UP THE BUCKET and then OVERFLOW the bucket to help other buckets to fill up, which means you get to repeat life after life.  It is very CONDITIONAL LOVE.  The common saying, that you know it is conditional, is, “When you are happy, I am happy“.  Which literally says, My happiness depends on you, my love depends on you.  It is very CONDITIONAL LOVE because you do not know how to love yourself, you don’t know how to fill the bucket up with self-love, and the self-love is leaking out through the holes in the bucket.

How to be selfless naturally?

When you learn to have self-love, then you overflow the self-love to others.

This is UNCONDITIONAL LOVE, you are giving without condition, as it is overflowing, you are not trying to control or determine who can have the love overflow, just like the sun, do not control who gets the sunlight, the sun is unconditionally giving.

If you want UNCONDITIONAL LOVE, you have to start by being SELFISH to be able to do LOVE SELF, look after self, learn to patch up the holes in your body, do self-care, then when it is achieved, the overflow is the LOVE OVERFLOW, the UNCONDITIONAL LOVE overflowing to others around you.

Summary:

• Conditioned to be selfless is CONDITIONAL LOVE, depending on others to give for you to give to others;
• Selfish love will become selfless love when it overflows, you get UNCONDITIONAL LOVE;